Dave Monk Posted October 7, 2019 Report Share Posted October 7, 2019 Totally understand your pain. We lost our grandson. Think of you often. OCtoolguy and John B 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jim McDonald Posted October 7, 2019 Report Share Posted October 7, 2019 Ray: I am truly humbled that would share such a personal tragedy with us. My heart hurts because you hurt and because I know what depression will do to a family. Not as deep as what you have experienced, but as Les said the blocking people, etc. JohnB said he was open to a chat and so am I and I am only +3 hours on the clock. By all means, PM or get with me if there is anything I can do--even if it is just to listen. Probably can't offer any meaningful advise, but I can listen. OCtoolguy and John B 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wilson142 Posted October 7, 2019 Report Share Posted October 7, 2019 So sorry for your loss. We almost lost our youngest daughter to an attempted suicide. Luckily her co worker went to see why she hadn't been to work and found her. No one knew she was struggling so much. So much seems bottled up. It's hard not to blame yourself. Take care. OCtoolguy 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OCtoolguy Posted October 7, 2019 Author Report Share Posted October 7, 2019 All of your kind comments are testaments as to why I posted this in the first place. All of you wonderful people have truly become my family. I hope I didn't bring sadness to such a joyful place. I just needed to vent some of my grief. Thank you all for giving me that opportunity. You are truly my Village. wombatie and meflick 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bill WIlson Posted October 7, 2019 Report Share Posted October 7, 2019 Ray, I'm sorry to say I was totally oblivious to your situation, until now. I want to extend my sincere condolences. I hope you find peace. OCtoolguy 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
poupster2 Posted October 7, 2019 Report Share Posted October 7, 2019 I'm really sorry Ray for you loss. I lost my Best friend to suicide 13 years ago and I Know how lost you must have felt. I know the questions that came into your mind ! I'm really glad that you reached out to us and we will do everything we can to help you. Just let us know!! Discussion is the onl way to recover from this! OCtoolguy 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Woodrush Posted October 7, 2019 Report Share Posted October 7, 2019 So sorry Ray. I couldn't imagine what your going through. I've lost friends to suicide which is hard enough but your own child is terrible. Prayers to you and your family John B and OCtoolguy 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scrollerpete Posted October 7, 2019 Report Share Posted October 7, 2019 So sorry to hear about your loss, parents are not supposed to bury their kids. Like somebody else said time is a great healer. OCtoolguy 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OCtoolguy Posted October 7, 2019 Author Report Share Posted October 7, 2019 1 hour ago, Bill WIlson said: Ray, I'm sorry to say I was totally oblivious to your situation, until now. I want to extend my sincere condolences. I hope you find peace. Don't feel bad. Nobody knew. With exception of a couple of folks. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Oldmansbike Posted October 7, 2019 Report Share Posted October 7, 2019 Sorry for your loss Ray. I just lost a great grandson last week. Don't know why either. Granddaughter went for checkup and the doctor couldn't find the heartbeat. She said sometimes it just happens. John B and OCtoolguy 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OCtoolguy Posted October 7, 2019 Author Report Share Posted October 7, 2019 40 minutes ago, Oldmansbike said: Sorry for your loss Ray. I just lost a great grandson last week. Don't know why either. Granddaughter went for checkup and the doctor couldn't find the heartbeat. She said sometimes it just happens. I'm sorry for your loss. My youngest son was born with the cord wrapped around his neck. If the doctor had not induced labor, he might have not made it. Thanks for your thoughts. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bandaideman Posted October 8, 2019 Report Share Posted October 8, 2019 I wish to add my condolences and will be praying for your family as you work through your time of grief. I have had depression issues for last 20 plus years. Definitely Family, friends and medication keeps me on an even keel. Scroll sawing and visits here are a big part of keeping me to much fewer down days. John B and OCtoolguy 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OCtoolguy Posted October 8, 2019 Author Report Share Posted October 8, 2019 34 minutes ago, bandaideman said: I wish to add my condolences and will be praying for your family as you work through your time of grief. I have had depression issues for last 20 plus years. Definitely Family, friends and medication keeps me on an even keel. Scroll sawing and visits here are a big part of keeping me to much fewer down days. Dan, if you ever feel a need to chat, please feel free to PM me through the Village message board. I'd be happy to talk with you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ron Johnson Posted October 8, 2019 Report Share Posted October 8, 2019 Hi Ray. My very sincere condolences to you and family. What you’re going through is normal and I would think your family is experiencing the same. Time will heal but it’s important you help one another through this period in time. Don’t be afraid to seek professional help. I’ve been in your shoes and I’m glad my wife and I had gotten professional help. I work in the death industry and have to deal with families on a regular basis who have gone through the same situation. The best advice I can give is express your feelings any way you know how, weather it’s through social media, here on the Village, friends, family and or anyone who will listen. Life must go on and it will. Pardon my long windedness. All the best to you and family. On 10/6/2019 at 1:04 PM, octoolguy said: one OCtoolguy and John B 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ptofimpact Posted October 8, 2019 Report Share Posted October 8, 2019 Ray so very sorry for your Loss, my Prayers and good thoughts for you and your family. OCtoolguy 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Foxfold Posted October 8, 2019 Report Share Posted October 8, 2019 I read this a day or two ago Ray but I could find no words. I still can't, but please know that you have the whole Village sending thoughts and prayers your way. Brenda OCtoolguy 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OCtoolguy Posted October 8, 2019 Author Report Share Posted October 8, 2019 9 minutes ago, Foxfold said: I read this a day or two ago Ray but I could find no words. I still can't, but please know that you have the whole Village sending thoughts and prayers your way. Brenda Thanks Brenda, believe me, I can feel the love. This is a true sanctuary. My favorite place to be when I'm not scrolling. Sometimes it's really hard to break away from here. I love "The Village" and all those in it. Thanks Travis for creating this place. I, for one, would not know what to do if we ever lost it. kmmcrafts 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Norm Fengstad Posted October 9, 2019 Report Share Posted October 9, 2019 My heart reaches to you, depression is such a difficult thing and harder yet to understand, been there, our family has touches of it, a work mate of mine lost two sons to depression and said years later it is like looking at a mountain in a rear view mirror so big and beautiful , as time slips away the mountain is smaller but surrounded be a gorgeous aura . Thanks for sharing and as you can see you are not alone. OCtoolguy 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bandaideman Posted October 9, 2019 Report Share Posted October 9, 2019 Thanks Ray I will keep that in mind. OCtoolguy 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lawson56 Posted October 9, 2019 Report Share Posted October 9, 2019 Ray,I am So Sorry to read about your loss,I haven't lost anyone that close,so I can only imagine what you and you Family have gone thru,Rest assured this Family is here whenever you need us. OCtoolguy 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brokentone Posted October 9, 2019 Report Share Posted October 9, 2019 Ray, So sorry to hear of your loss. I Pray that he is with the Lord. Bob OCtoolguy 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
heppnerguy Posted October 9, 2019 Report Share Posted October 9, 2019 Ray, We lost a 10 year old Granddaughter to a sneaker wave on the Oregon coast. It hurt a lot and we have not gotten over it even after 20 years but although we never forget her, we also have never stopped loving her. Time helps a lot but the pain remains in our heart. The loss of your own child must hurt even more. Out prayers are with you and your family. Dick heppnerguy OCtoolguy 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OCtoolguy Posted October 9, 2019 Author Report Share Posted October 9, 2019 4 hours ago, Brokentone said: Ray, So sorry to hear of your loss. I Pray that he is with the Lord. Bob We know he is. Thanks! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
barb.j.enders Posted October 15, 2019 Report Share Posted October 15, 2019 Sorry for your loss Ray. OCtoolguy 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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